Desire is the starting

"Child of mine I will never do for you that which I know you can do for yourself. I will never rob you of an opportunity to show yourself your ability and talent. I will see you at all times as the capable effective powerful creator that you've come forth to be. And I will stand back as your most avid cheerleading section. But I will not do for you that which you have intended to do for yourself. Anything you need from me ask. I'm always here to compliment or assist. I am here to encourage your growth not to justify my experience through you."
Abraham-Hicks